What is Self Identity? Understand the Question – Who am I?
Who am I? Self Identity – How to Build Private Character
Understanding the Question .. Who am I?
What is Self Identity and how can you create a better Personality
Who Am I? Understanding Self Identity
Who I am? A question everyone at some point will ask themselves, certainly a question many organizations, religions and self help Guru’s have attempted to provide an response to on your behalf. В It is my opinion that our understanding of our roles te the world and the universe, and how to influence it have come a long way ter the last decades of humanity.
IВ personally choose toВ believe, that answers to the question “Who am I”? that come from religious or philosophies developed ter the bronze age – are not going to be that practical to assisting you to understand and more importantly switch who you are. Sure it is nice to think that everything te the Universe wasgoed created just for you because you are special – but most of us (if wij have the capability to truthfully self reflect) know this is just not the case.
Life, People, Events and Circumstances are consistently random and unpredictable – and certainly not designed for your best interests all the time.
The following article will give you an understanding of who you are, it will provide a elementary and basic explanation that will provide you with the capability to comprehend and formulate practical ways to accept or switch who you are at your core self. В So lets examine some of thesis constructs….
Te a nutshell – Who Are You?
Who you are is your Self Identity, the way you look at yourself and your relationship to the world. Understanding this, permits you to examine who you are and more importantly create who you want to be.
Lets begin with a basic definition of some of the key players and then examine how to create yourself…
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The Components of Self Identity
В Self Identity
Refers to the global understanding a person has of themselves. Self Identity is composed of relatively voortdurend self-assessments, such spil personality attributes, skill of one’s abilities and abilities, one’s occupation and hobbies, and awareness of one’s physical attributes.
For example, the statement, “I am lazy” is a self-assessment that contributes to the self-concept. Te tegenstelling, the statement “I am tired” would not normally be considered part of someone’s self-concept, since being tired is a improvised state.
The Self Identity is not restricted to the present. It includes past selves and future selves. Future selves or “possible selves” represent individuals’ ideas of what they might become, what they would like to become, and what they are afraid of becoming. They correspond to hopes, fears, standards, goals, and threats. Possible selves may function spil incentives for future behavior and they also provide an evaluative and interpretive setting for the current view of self.
Self Identity Boundary
Your boundary is a much the same spil the boundary lines of a property.В It is the clear and defined border that surrounds the house with all its treasures (your Self Identity can be thought of spil your house or property) .В The boundary lines let others know how far the ownership of the property goes.В Ter a private development sense the boundaries are more difficult to see and be aware of.В But te a nutshell your boundary is your preferences or rules you have about things like
1) What you will accept ter behavior from and towards yourself
Two) Your capability to say either YES and NO to events or statements.
You know someone who you love being around socially but they periodically do things that are a matter of a puny illegal crime – a result others are hurt ter a petite financial or emotional way. While your together they want you to help them out with something that you know is illegal.В Do you help them because you like them even if you would not do this yourself? Are you able to be comfy telling No to the request
Refers to the structure or framework that a person uses to organize and define what the world is to them.В The World View should permit us to understand how the world functions and how it is structured. The totality, everything that exists around us, including the physical universe, the Earth, life, mind, society and culture. Wij ourselves are an significant part of that world. Therefore, a world view should also reaction the basic question: “Who are wij?
The World View is our standard of how things are or should be ter the world wij live ter.В It is a global concept that makes up our values and morals, our rules of how wij and others should act, relate and operate within the world.В To most people the world view is largely a vague set of rules and guidelines that wij have unconsciously adopted from the life practices and influences wij have.В Wij adopted from our friends, family religious groups, and society, seldom making an active process of creating our own.В Wij can create aspects of our world view tho’ our intellect, using either rational and conscious decisions or emotional charged ideas and concepts.В The World View is a filterzakje which wij make judgments of others and ourselves.
Refers to a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of hier or his own worth at any one point te time.В Generally speaking it is an emotional measure of how well wij are living up to our world view.В Self Esteem is perhaps the single most significant emotional gauge of our capability to feel almost all other positive emotions and beliefs about ourselves.В For example it affects our measure of happiness, success, well being, confidence, assurances etc, and is made up of all of thesis feelings te a combined sensation called Self Esteem.
While Self Esteem is a general state of mind, it is affected by switches te any one of the various feelings that make it up.В For example a druppel ter confidence will lower Self Esteem ter the brief term.В Prolonged Negative practice will produce a longer term reduction of Self Esteem, yet at the same time a positive emotional practice will increase the sensation.В Ter elementary terms, when you practice an event or situation that supports your world view your Esteem increases and vice versa.
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How Self Identity fitвЂ™s into the Character Building Prototype
What is Self Esteem
Now, that wij have a basic definition of the various components of your Character (Self Identity, Boundaries/World View &, Self Esteem), lets see how our monster fits together.
Your Self Identity, (the core of who you are) is surrounded by your Boundary which filters both outward and inward practice you have to the world.В
The resulting emotional practice you have from a situation, person or event is then determined by how well you managed the practice te relation to your world view.
For Example. В You have a rock-hard rule te your world view that вЂњIf someone respects mij they will not yell at meвЂќ.В Te an event where someone starts to yell at you, if you have a boundary present (a hard preference to what you say yes or no too) you will say вЂњPlease do not yell, it shows mij you have no respect for meвЂќ and the person will know what is acceptable to you, and you will increase your self esteem because you had integrity.
If you do not have a boundary about yelling, the person will yell at you … and you will feel according to your world view that they do not respect you and will lose Self Esteem.В Ter addition because you are not living up to your own standards, you feel bad and lose more self esteem.
You might like to think of the boundary spil being a container that surrounds you, It not only protects your Self Identity, but also acts much like a gas waterreservoir to hold your Self Esteem.В Within the boundary is your measure of Self Esteem.В And spil wij know the sense of self esteem is a measure of how well you measure up to your world view.В It is determined by your deeds and reactions to the world around you spil determined by the rules that you have, of how the world should be.
Your Self Identity constructs and is made up from your practice through the boundaries of how well you measure up to your world view.В Self Identity becomes a long lasting definition of your character.
Where problems arise te Self Identity
Each person view of the world is unique to them, and no one has a volmaakt world view. Ter fact most people do not have a clear or conscious understanding of what their world view is, they are vague on their rules to live a good and productive life.В This vagueness about their rules of how to live a good and productive life is reflected te cracked boundaries or a lack of preference for who they are, what they like and what is adequate behavior.В Sometimes there is no preference at all which creates gaps ter the boundary.
Explaining Self Identity
A gap can be defined spil a fuckhole ter your boundary.В It is a lack of a preference or rule you have about yourself or your behavior or your place ter the world. At a basic level, it is your inability to say or hear the word вЂNoвЂ™.В For example, you might not be able to say no to a family members requestвЂ™s or permit them to get away with something unacceptable for you, if done by someone outside of the family
A vague preference or rule is something that you are a little wishy-washy on.В It is a concept or situation where you have an idea of what is acceptable to you (ter your world view).В For example, you may define yourself by a particular religious faith, but live te sin according to that faith and be able to justify it to yourself
A well defined section of your boundary is a preference you have and stick with.В It is a clear statement of who you are that you can express to yourself and to those around you.В Examples might include a political view, your stance on abortion, or any strongly held belief about something
When your Boundary (the container that holds your self esteem) has gaps or vague preferences (rules) te it, you lack control te your decision making.В You are ter a position where people or situations can reach ter and press your buttons.В This is a situation or event that will create stress, where your lack of a clear preference can cause you to feel confused.В Without a boundary filterzakje for your Identity you are ter a position where you will drain your sense of Self Esteem.
And when you do not have a clear sense of your preferences, or a lack of self esteem to act on them, people are able to manipulate you, or they are able to annoy you, or your able to get annoyed with yourself, but most importantly because you are incapable to present a clear concept of who you are to those around you, people will not be able understand where you stand on something which makes it difficult for them to develop respect or trust for you.
For example вЂ¦. LetвЂ™s assume someone you know asks you for a favor.В They need to borrow $300 until payday because there wasgoed something they absolutely needed and spent all their money on.В You already know this person lacks self discipline, they never have any money but are always displaying you their fresh footwear (if fact lets assume that this is what they вЂneededвЂ™ so badly).
If you have Clear Boundaries
If you have a clear preference for yourself, a clear and well defined rule of your world view, that you (and others) should live within their means and fresh boots are a luxury not a necessity.В About this world view rule you have a define boundary preference, you are able to say вЂњNoвЂќ to this request.В The person may attempt to manipulate you or shove your buttons by telling something like вЂњYou know last weekend I brought you drinks, and you canвЂ™t do mij this little favorвЂќ, and you will not be effected.
You have a solid rule about this, when they shove you, they feel the resistance, your firmness and your resolve (your boundary)В and while they may not like your decision, they will вЂrespectвЂ™ you for it, and know they can not get this favor out of you.В You will because you have encountered a situation that you remained true to who you are, will feel good about yourself.В You will because you followed your world view rules, pack your waterreservoir of self esteem a little more which strengthens your Self Identity.
If you have Vague Boundaries
If you only have a vague rule te your world view about this, you might need to think about it for a uur.В You may have the world view rule that it is OK to lend money to friends and family to help them out because they are your friend or family and it is only right to help out people you love.В It might depend on the situation and the person asking, and perhaps if they just promise to be more careful next time you will give them the money.
Te this situation, you have doubts about yourself and who you are and what you believe, and while you may make someone else glad by doing them a favor, you are unassured it wasgoed the right decision to make.В You may feel a little confused afterwards spil to why you talent money away you needed, or you may be blessed to help a friend.В Because your boundary here is vague you have no measure to affect your self esteem and you are subject to seeking outward confirmation you did the right thing.
If you have gaps te your Boundaries
Now letвЂ™s assume you have a gap te boundary about your world view rule, a slot when it comes to people asking for money.В The person asking is telling you they are ter need, they would not ask otherwise, and you want them to like you so you give them the money they ask for.В Come payday, they are out with their friends having a fine time and they donвЂ™t even suggest to pay you back.В You ask them about it and they make an excuse and promise next week.В This person knows you are feeble, there is no respect for you or your needs, they can get what they want and you suggest no level of value to them because youвЂ™re so effortless to manipulate.
You on the other palm feel betrayed and left out, your control of your sense of who you are and your place te the world is conditional on someone else and what they do.В You start to suffer because you think they вЂshouldвЂ™ behave a certain way and they are not.В You are te a situation where according to your world view, according to your rules about life, people should not spend money on things they donвЂ™t need and canвЂ™t afford, but because of the gap te your boundary you did not live up to your expectations of how you should live your life.В Your sense of self esteem drains spil you spend your time and energy worrying about something that is now outside of your control.
Controlling the Controllable Situations and Events ter your Life
Controlling your Self Identity
When you have a clearly define world view, one where your rules are known to you (and recall not very many people have any idea of what their world view is) you can create preferences or boundaries around yourself.В Then spil life practices come around you make decisions based on your boundaries, it increases your sense of self esteem and makes a stronger character of who you are ter your self identity. You are able to clearly define the thresholds of the extent of your control.
Ter the case of psychological feelings, you understand that you are the only one who can make you feel a certain way.В You understand that things outside of your Self Identity, can only affect you with there is a gap ter your boundary about a world view rule.
Others may attempt to control the outcome of a situation or your feelings, but your boundary will bounce off and protect you from any attempts to manipulate or control you.В You will know how to act to have integrity with your self identity and character.В You will know what requests, events and situations you say No or Yes too.В They are incapable to shove your buttons and make you react te a way that gets them a result.
You also understand that you are only able to control who you are, and that while you can make a good judgment on how others might behave, you are incapable to determine their world view or what boundaries they might or might not have and how they may act.В You do not make the mistake of attempting to get results by controlling another personвЂ™s World View and Self Identity.
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